Everybody’s wish is to have a perfect relationship that will lead to marriage and live happily ever after. Nature-wise a man and a woman was created to be each other’s companion thus coordinate and come into agreement as two lovers and then settle together. When two people are in courtship it means they are committed to each other and have come into agreement of trying something new between them. Couples will start revealing their dark sides when they have moved in together.
Marriage counselors have affirmed that mostly couples will have a perfect enticing relationship before they get married to each other. Until when the two officially get married and start living under one roof the misunderstanding and hullaballoo starts right away. When people stay together it is easier for them to learn each other’s dark and good side very fast since they are always together.
Marriage therapist will make sure they’ve handled the couple’s case with a lot of professionalism to avoid taking sides. A counselor’s job is to make sure the couple has left the counseling session satisfied. For a counselor to be able to handle the couple’s case the two must be in a position of speaking out their issue openly without fear of contradiction. Marriage therapist will listen to them and allow both of them to talk in turns and explain themselves. Arguing during counseling is prohibited under all costs thus the counselor must maintain peace and order during the session. Sometimes the couple may be too stubborn and may retaliate thus the counselor must have a big heart to be able to handle them.
A counselor should, therefore, be a good listener, patient, have a strong personality, and very wise to be able to deal with such cases. The counselor’s job is to bring the couple together and make them feel awake and up once more. The counselor should let them know what they are experiencing is very normal and the problem can be tackled. The counselor should handle the case in a justice manner and not take sides to avoid more arguments between the two culprits. This is a case that needs cautiousness thus a counselor might need more counseling sessions for better results.
In some scenarios the couple’s case may need more time depending on with the issue and even after prolonged sessions if a counselor feels there is no progress seen he/she may refer them to a different therapist. Communication between couples is the main problem to most marriage breakages.